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Healing from Trauma/Neglect/Abuse
Teaching Money Skills to Young Relative Children
Raising a relative's child gives you many chances to help them learn who they are, where they come from, and how they can contribute to their family and community. Teaching basic money skills is part of that work. Young children do not need an allowance or a formal...
Teaching Money Skills to Tweens, Teens, and Young Adult Relatives
As children grow into tweens, teens, and young adults, money lessons become more important. Young people want freedom, but they still need practice, clear limits, and support. This is part two of a series on teaching money skills to our relative children. Work Means...
How Your Childhood Shapes the Way You Raise Your Relative Child
When you step in to raise a grandchild, niece, nephew, sibling, or another relative child, you bring more than love and commitment. You also bring lessons from childhood. Some were spoken. Others came from watching how adults handled anger, sadness, mistakes, respect,...
Impacts of Prenatal Exposure to Alcohol and Drugs
Teaching Money Skills to Young Relative Children
Raising a relative's child gives you many chances to help them learn who they are, where they come from, and how they can contribute to their family and community. Teaching basic money skills is part of that work. Young children do not need an allowance or a formal...
Teaching Money Skills to Tweens, Teens, and Young Adult Relatives
As children grow into tweens, teens, and young adults, money lessons become more important. Young people want freedom, but they still need practice, clear limits, and support. This is part two of a series on teaching money skills to our relative children. Work Means...
Tips to Help You Raise a Child with Prenatal Exposure to Drugs and Alcohol
Across the Eastern Band of Cherokee Indians, family has always stepped forward for family. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, older siblings, and cousins often take on the role of caregiver so children can stay connected to their people, their stories, and their land. That...
Challenging Behaviors
When a Child Is Being Bullied: Support and Guidance for Caregivers
It is hard to watch a child you love get hurt by other children. Many caregivers feel worried, angry, sad, or helpless when they learn a child is being bullied. Some children tell adults right away. Others stay quiet because they feel embarrassed, afraid, or unsure if...
Why Is My Relative Child Hiding Food? What It Means and How to Help
You might notice something that feels confusing, or even a little worrying. Food is tucked into a backpack. Snacks are hidden in a bedroom. Wrappers are stashed under the bed. If you’re raising a grandchild, niece, nephew, or another relative, you might find yourself...
How to Build Self-Care Practices that Support Self-Regulation
Caring for your relative’s children—especially children who have been through hard things—takes a lot of energy, patience, and heart. Many caregivers are told, “Take care of yourself.” But what does that really mean? Self-care is not about pampering yourself with...
ADHD
When School Is Hard: Finding the Right Support for Your Relative Child
When the child you are raising struggles in school, it can be hard to know what to do next. You may see low grades, unfinished work, behavior problems, or a child who says they hate school. You may also hear concerns from teachers. If school worked differently when...
When Kids Can’t Sleep
Sleep struggles are common among families raising grandchildren, nephews and nieces, or other relatives. When a child wakes often or comes into your room every night, everyone feels it. Lack of sleep can affect everyone: moods focus behavior patience at home family...
At-Home Strategies to Support Your Relative Child with ADHD
If you’re caring for a grandchild, niece, or nephew who has ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder), you know it comes with challenges and rewards. Being a relative caregiver in this community means you bring deep roots, caring traditions, and strong support...
Disrupting Birth Order
Rules of Thumb When Raising a Relative’s Child Disrupts Birth Order
Blending a family of your children with a grandchild, niece, or nephew can involve raising children out of birth order. Your nephew may be older than your oldest child, or your granddaughter may now be the middle child of the kids living in your home. Do you wonder...
Welcoming a Sibling Group to Your Home
You and the members of your family have significant changes ahead to consider. Your grandchildren (or nieces and nephews or siblings) are coming to live with you for a while because their parents cannot keep them safe right now. However, it's critical to remember that...
Preparing Children in the Home for Adding a Relative’s Child
Welcoming another child to your home, whether a grandchild, cousin or other loved one, can change how you relate to each other. It can create significant stress for all the children. There are practical suggestions you can try to help everyone in the family settles...
Helping A Child Heal from Sexual Abuse
Truths Every Child Needs to Hear
When a child has experienced abuse, neglect, or loss, they often take those events into their hearts and minds and then believe things about themselves that are untrue. They frequently feel guilt or shame as if the abuse or chaotic conditions of their life are their...
Helping Manage Inappropriate Behaviors for Children with Prenatal Substance Exposure – Part 2
As we discussed in Part 1 of this article series, it’s common for children with exposure to drugs and alcohol during pregnancy to struggle with inappropriate sexual behaviors. Whether the child acts out in sexually uncomfortable ways or has been a victim of unwanted,...
Helping Manage Inappropriate Behaviors for Children with Prenatal Substance Exposure – Part 1
It’s common for children who were exposed to drugs and alcohol during pregnancy to struggle with inappropriate behaviors. One of the most challenging behaviors you might see in your grandchild is inappropriate sexual behavior. Another painful issue is that children...
School Issues for Foster & Kinship Kids
When School Is Hard: Finding the Right Support for Your Relative Child
When the child you are raising struggles in school, it can be hard to know what to do next. You may see low grades, unfinished work, behavior problems, or a child who says they hate school. You may also hear concerns from teachers. If school worked differently when...
Helping Your Grandchild Set Healthy Homework Habits Early This School Year
School is starting soon, and you may already be dreading homework battles. Maybe last year included tears, frustration, missing assignments, or nightly arguments about getting work done. The good news is that homework habits can be taught. The beginning of the school...
Working Together with Schools: Support for Kinship Caregivers
Many children in this tribal community are being raised by grandparents, aunts, uncles, older siblings, or other relatives. These kinship caregivers provide love, safety, and connection to culture during difficult times. However, you may also be facing challenges that...
Technology/Internet and Our Kids
How to Talk to Teens About Screens
When you’re raising a relative’s teen in your home, especially when that teen couldn’t live safely in their parents’ home, you may face unique challenges. One of the big ones today is screens: phones, tablets, gaming, social media. It can feel like you’re fighting a...
A Guide to Managing Screen Time When Raising a Relative Child
Raising your niece, nephew, or grandchild in this tribal community is an act of great love, strength, and intentionality. Your relative child may have faced early challenges before joining your household, like being exposed during pregnancy to drugs and alcohol, or...
Helping Tweens and Teens Use Screens Safely
Raising a tween or teen today means dealing with phones, social media, and online safety. If your grandchild or a young relative has come to live with you, and you haven’t had to manage screen time before, it can feel overwhelming. When you educate yourself and...
Self-Care for Kinship and Foster Parents
How Your Childhood Shapes the Way You Raise Your Relative Child
When you step in to raise a grandchild, niece, nephew, sibling, or another relative child, you bring more than love and commitment. You also bring lessons from childhood. Some were spoken. Others came from watching how adults handled anger, sadness, mistakes, respect,...
When One Caregiver Carries Too Much
Many families find that one adult becomes the "go-to" caregiver for difficult moments. Whether it's bedtime, school struggles, big emotions, or behavior challenges, one person often ends up carrying most of the responsibility. Over time, that can leave everyone...
Learning to Be Kind to Yourself: Understanding Self-Compassion
If you’re raising a relative’s child, you are likely used to putting others first. You show up. You solve problems. You keep going, even on hard days. But there is something many caregivers struggle with: being kind to themselves. Does that feel familiar? What Is...
Relationship with Child’s Parent
How to Talk to Your Relative Child About the Hard Parts of Their Story
When you step up to help raise a child from your family, you already share a history, relationships, and deep connections. In many Native communities, children are often cared for by a circle of relatives who help guide and protect them. However, when a child cannot...
Welcoming a Child to Your Home as a Relative Caregiver
When a child in your extended family can’t live with their parents, it often falls to someone like you—a grandparent, aunt, uncle, or cousin—to step in and offer the safety, love, and stability they need. Bringing this child into your home is a powerful act of care....
Taking Care of Your Grandchild’s Mental and Emotional Wellbeing
Raising your grandchild, niece, nephew, or other young relative can be a blessing. However, it can also be challenging to navigate. When a child lives apart from their parent—especially due to addiction or substance use—it can create deep emotional stress for everyone...
Working Together For the Good of the Child In Your Care
When One Caregiver Carries Too Much
Many families find that one adult becomes the "go-to" caregiver for difficult moments. Whether it's bedtime, school struggles, big emotions, or behavior challenges, one person often ends up carrying most of the responsibility. Over time, that can leave everyone...
How Do I Know What My Family Needs? Where Do I Go for Help?
Many kinship caregivers step in to raise a relative's child with little to no notice. One day, you are a grandparent, aunt, uncle, or older sibling. And the next, you are raising a child full-time. You may not have had time to prepare. You may still be figuring things...
Stronger Together: The Role Men Play in Raising Relative Children
When a child needs family to step in, many relatives answer that call with love. In many homes, the women (grandmothers, aunts, and older sisters) do much of the daily care. But children also need men in their lives. Fathers, grandfathers, uncles, brothers, and other...
Raising Adolescents (tweens/teens)
Teaching Money Skills to Tweens, Teens, and Young Adult Relatives
As children grow into tweens, teens, and young adults, money lessons become more important. Young people want freedom, but they still need practice, clear limits, and support. This is part two of a series on teaching money skills to our relative children. Work Means...
Helping Older Kids Make Safe Choices: Real-World Safety Skills for Everyday Life
As children move into the teen years, their world gets bigger. They spend more time with friends. They have greater freedom. They use technology more often. They start making decisions without an adult by their side. That growing independence is a normal and healthy...
Helping Older Kids Make Safe Choices: Start with Trust
As children get older, it is natural to worry about the choices they will make. You may wonder about the friends they spend time with, what they see online, or whether they will come to you when something feels wrong. For grandparents, aunts, uncles, and other family...
Supporting Healthy Relationships/Attachment
How Your Childhood Shapes the Way You Raise Your Relative Child
When you step in to raise a grandchild, niece, nephew, sibling, or another relative child, you bring more than love and commitment. You also bring lessons from childhood. Some were spoken. Others came from watching how adults handled anger, sadness, mistakes, respect,...
Helping Older Kids Make Safe Choices: Real-World Safety Skills for Everyday Life
As children move into the teen years, their world gets bigger. They spend more time with friends. They have greater freedom. They use technology more often. They start making decisions without an adult by their side. That growing independence is a normal and healthy...
Helping Older Kids Make Safe Choices: Start with Trust
As children get older, it is natural to worry about the choices they will make. You may wonder about the friends they spend time with, what they see online, or whether they will come to you when something feels wrong. For grandparents, aunts, uncles, and other family...
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