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Healing from Trauma/Neglect/Abuse
Bedwetting and Accidents, Potty Training Part 2
Helping a Child with Bedwetting and Other Toileting Problems Even after a child has learned successful daytime potty skills, they may experience other toileting challenges. For example, overnight bedwetting or pooping in their pants is not uncommon for kids who were...
Potty Training Your Relative Child, Part 1
Taking care of children who have experienced loss, chaos, or exposure to alcohol or drugs before birth can be a big job, especially when it comes to potty training. These children may face extra challenges to conquer potty training, but with understanding, patience,...
Life Skills to Build Capable Young Adults
When you're raising a grandchild, niece, nephew, or other young family members, you're not just stepping in — you're standing in the gap. Many of these kids carry heavy stories: trauma, abuse, family separation, prenatal substance exposure and more. You hold dear the...
Impacts of Prenatal Exposure to Alcohol and Drugs
Helping Your Tween or Teen Develop Their Whole Person
Does your tween or teen grandchild (nephew or cousin) act sullen, angry, illogical, and overly emotional? Do they engage in risky behaviors you never dealt with when raising your kids? You may struggle to understand this young person or feel connected to them because...
Helping Tweens and Teens Manage Money
When a child’s developing brain is impacted by exposure to drugs and alcohol during pregnancy, early loss, neglect, or other trauma, they may struggle to understand money. Learning the value of money and how to manage it can also be an overwhelming task for kids with...
3 Essential Tips for Raising a Child with Brain Differences
Your grandchild with brain differences (like ADHD, prenatal substance exposure, autism, or learning differences) navigates the world differently than you do. Sometimes, those differences can make the days challenging for you all. However, if you can focus on these...
Challenging Behaviors
How to Respond When a Child or Teen is Having a Meltdown
What do you do when your grandchild pitches a fit in Aisle 2 of the local grocery store? Or when your teenage niece screams at her sibling, slams doors, or kicks walls? It's a stressful moment for everyone, and your nerves are frayed while you figure out what to do....
Helping Your Tween or Teen Develop Their Whole Person
Does your tween or teen grandchild (nephew or cousin) act sullen, angry, illogical, and overly emotional? Do they engage in risky behaviors you never dealt with when raising your kids? You may struggle to understand this young person or feel connected to them because...
Encouraging Curiosity in Children
“Why does the plant need water, Grandma?” “How does that plane stay up in the air?” “What do birds think about when they sleep?” Does your grandchild (nephew, niece, or cousin) ask these questions? Do you feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or stumped by the many questions...
ADHD
Helpful Homework Strategies for a Child with ADHD
Homework after school can be a daily struggle when raising a grandchild or loved one with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Many of the steps involved in getting the assignments home and finished requires your grandchild to use skills that are...
Empowering Your Teen with ADHD
Your grandchild has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), and you want to support them in ways that empower and equip them to succeed. School, extracurricular activities, and part-time jobs are all typical settings that can stress a typical teen. When a...
Practical Ideas for Keeping Easily Distractible Kids on Task
Many kids struggle to stay focused and attend to tasks. As they grow and learn new organizational skills that work for them, they often grow out of their distractibility. However, struggles with organization and staying on task can typically last much longer for a...
Disrupting Birth Order
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Helping A Child Heal from Sexual Abuse
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School Issues for Foster & Kinship Kids
Creating a Partnership with Your Grandchild’s School
Whether you are raising your nephew, grandchild, or other loved one, you need a supportive and seasoned team around you. One crucial part of that team should be the local school where the child is enrolled. However, grandparents and caregivers often feel as if school...
How to Manage Special Education Services for Your Grandchild
Managing your grandchild or loved one’s IEP, 504, or other special education services in the public schools can feel like an overwhelming task. The language of special education and the process of setting up services can leave you feeling uncertain of your ability to...
A Quick Checklist to Prepare for Back-to-School
It seems almost too soon to mention the “s-c-h-o-o-l" word. Still, quicker than you can imagine, your grandchild will be figuring out who is in their homeroom and talking about packing school supplies. When raising a loved one's child, it's good to consider what else...
Technology/Internet and Our Kids
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Self-Care for Kinship and Foster Parents
Practical Tips for Navigate the Tween and Teen Years with Your Relative Child
The tween and teen years can get a bad rap – folks assume an adolescent will be rebellious, acting out, or stuck behind a screen with a sullen look on their face. While sometimes those things are true, it’s also true that the teen years can be rich with rewarding...
How to Build Your Family’s Resilience
We all want the children we love to be able to face hard times and cope with them successfully. The ability to “bounce back” from life’s challenges can be part of a child’s naturally wired temperament. However, other kids may need help learning how to develop their...
Raising This Child Matters!
Occasionally, it’s good for your mental and emotional health to pause and consider what you are doing and why it matters. Kinship caregivers play a unique and vital role in a child’s healing and overall well-being. Do you stop to think about why and how to be sure you...
Relationship with Child’s Parent
Practical Tips for Sharing the Parenting Load In Kinship Caregiving
No one-size-fits-all solution exists for raising a loved one's child in your home. Depending upon the role this child’s parent can play, the safety and legal issues in your family’s particular circumstances, and other issues your family faces, you might have questions...
How Can You Support Reunification for Your Grandchild and their Parents?
As a grandparent, aunt, or cousin raising this child when their parents cannot do it, you have a unique opportunity to provide nurturing care and space for healing for your loved ones. However, the relationship you already have with this child’s parents, whether they...
Keeping Your Grandchild Out of the Middle of the Relationship Between You and Their Parents
Raising a loved one’s child can be a joyful, fulfilling experience. However, it can also be riddled with tension and anxiety – for you, the child, and the parents. This child may feel stuck in the middle of the adults in their life, and that's stressful for any child....
Working Together For the Good of the Child In Your Care
How to Build Your Family’s Resilience
We all want the children we love to be able to face hard times and cope with them successfully. The ability to “bounce back” from life’s challenges can be part of a child’s naturally wired temperament. However, other kids may need help learning how to develop their...
Easing A Child’s Fears When You Meet for the First Time
Typically, when you welcome a child to your home to support their family through a challenging season, you already have a relationship with the child. You may not know them well, but you are not wholly unfamiliar with each other. However, occasionally, raising another...
Truths Every Child Needs to Hear
When a child has experienced abuse, neglect, or loss, they often take those events into their hearts and minds and then believe things about themselves that are untrue. They frequently feel guilt or shame as if the abuse or chaotic conditions of their life are their...
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