When your grandchild or another young relative starts talking about life after high school, it can feel both exciting and overwhelming. You’ve already helped them through so much, like school projects, doctor visits, hard days, and big dreams. Now it’s time to help them take the next step, whether that’s a four-year college, a community college, or a trade or vocational school.
You don’t have to know everything about college to help them take the next steps. A little planning and encouragement can go a long way toward helping your teen feel ready and confident.
Starting the Conversations Early
It’s never too early to start talking about their future. Even in 10th or 11th grade, you can ask questions like:
- “What kind of work sounds interesting to you?”
- “Would you like to learn a trade, like welding, cosmetology, or mechanics?”
- “Have you thought about visiting a college or trade school nearby?”
If you live near a college, check if they have free campus events or tours. Many also offer virtual tours online, allowing you to explore from the comfort of your own home.
Learn about the different types of schools:
- Four-year colleges and universities offer bachelor’s degrees in many subjects.
- Community colleges – offer two-year degrees and are often more affordable.
- Trade or vocational schools – teach hands-on skills that lead to careers like electrical work, health care, or technology.
Explore these helpful links:
- College Foundation of North Carolina (CFNC.org) – Free help with choosing, applying, and paying for school.
- S. Department of Education: College and Career Planning
- Bureau of Indian Education Higher Education Program – Grants for eligible Native students.
Exploring the Options for Financial Help
Money worries stop many families from thinking about college—but you don’t have to do it alone.
Most students start with the FAFSA (Free Application for Federal Student Aid). The form in the highlighted link helps determine if your grandchild qualifies for grants, scholarships, or work-study programs. The high school guidance team should be able to help you navigate this process if you are unsure or need advice.
If you are raising your grandchild without their parents, the student may be considered independent, which could make them eligible for more aid.
More resources for kinship and first-generation students:
- NC Community College System Scholarships
- First in the Family – Tips and stories for first-generation college students and caregivers.
- EBCI Education & Training Program – Help with tribal scholarships, grants, and career planning.
Supporting Your Student as They Get Ready
Even after your grandchild chooses a path, they’ll still need your encouragement.
- Help them practice independence. Let them make their own calls or send emails to colleges.
- Ask about support programs. Many schools have offices that provide support to students in areas such as mental health, tutoring, or financial literacy.
- Celebrate every success. Passing a test, completing an application, or getting accepted is something that deserves to be noticed!
And if your student attends school away from home, plan regular check-ins by phone or video. Let them lead the conversation so they can learn to manage their new independence while knowing you’re always in their corner.
Caring for Yourself Too
Sending a grandchild off to college is a significant emotional shift. You’ve been their rock for years, and it’s okay to feel a mix of pride, worry, and even a little sadness over the changes you are experiencing.
Take care of yourself, too. Stay connected with local kinship support groups, such as those offered through Creating a Family or Raising Relatives WNC. Talking with other caregivers who’ve been through this helps you stay strong and hopeful.
You’re Already Doing So Much Right
You don’t need to be an expert in college admissions or financial aid. You’ve already shown your grandchild how to work hard, be responsible, and keep going when life gets hard. Those lessons will carry them far—no matter which path they take after high school. Your safe home, supportive care, and loving guidance are the best preparation of all.