When you’re raising grandchildren or another relative’s children, it’s easy to put your own needs last. There’s always something else to do—another meal to make, a school form to sign, a ride to give. But here’s the truth: taking care of your physical health isn’t selfish. It’s one of the most important gifts you can give these kids who have come into your care.
Staying strong, healthy, and well-rested makes it easier to show up for these kids day after day. You’re also modeling what it looks like to take care of your body — a lesson that helps them grow into adults who value their health, too.
Practical Strategies to Care for Your Health
These simple, practical ways to care for your body will help you show up for the kids in your house. You can start with small steps and build from there when you feel confident and ready.
1. Start with Sleep: The Foundation of Health
Getting enough rest is one of the most important things you can do for your body. Sleep helps you think clearly, feel less overwhelmed, and stay physically strong.
Try to:
- Go to bed and wake up at the same time each day.
- Create a calming bedtime routine — maybe reading, gentle stretches, or prayer.
- Keep screens (phones, TV) off for 30 minutes before bed.
It’s okay if your sleep isn’t the perfect quality, but try your best to make small changes to keep improving it. Even small changes can make a big difference in your energy and mood.
2. Take Care of Medical and Dental Needs
You matter — and your health matters. Don’t wait until something is wrong to get help. Regular checkups can help prevent more significant problems down the road. The Resources page of this website offers information on medical and dental care, as well as financial support and transportation services.
If you’re raising kids, you are doing hard, meaningful work. You deserve to have your health supported as well.
3. Fuel Your Body with Good Food
It’s easy (and sometimes cheaper) to grab what’s quick and easy at hand. However, remember that your body (and mood) are deeply affected by what you eat. We aren’t saying your food intake must be perfectly balanced every time you eat. But, you can aim for a bit more balance by starting with one or two of these ideas at a time:
- Pick one meal each day when you add more fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, or whole grains.
- Drink water instead of sugary drinks as often as you can.
- Limit processed foods or snacks that make you feel sluggish.
Find out what resources are available in your community, like:
- Local food distribution programs or tribal nutrition services,
- Farmers markets, often offering fresh, local produce and sometimes double food dollars for EBT,
- Community gardens or co-ops where you can grow or receive produce.
Cooking and eating together can also be a great family activity. You can use it as an opportunity to teach healthier versions of family favorites or to share cultural food traditions with your loved ones.
4. Move Your Body in Ways You Enjoy
Physical movement isn’t just about exercising at the gym or working up a big sweat. Staying active helps lower stress, supports sleep, and boosts your mood.
You don’t need a gym membership. Find what brings you joy:
- Walking outside, enjoying nature
- Playing tag or dancing with the kids
- Gentle stretching or chair exercises
- Gardening, fishing, or traditional dance classes
Invite the children to join you. Making movement part of your family’s routine, such as a daily walk after dinner, can be both fun and meaningful for everyone.
5. Model a Healthy Mindset
Your grandchildren are watching – not just what you do, but what you say about yourself. Speak kindly about your body, even when it’s tired or hurting.
Instead of saying:
- “I’m too old for this,” try “I’m doing my best today.”
- “I hate how I look,” try “My body has carried me through a lot.”
Modeling self-respect helps the kids learn to love and care for their own bodies, too.
6. Remember Your “Why”
When your motivation is low or you feel tired and overwhelmed by everyone’s needs, hold onto your “why.” Remember why you are committed to caring for your health:
- To keep up with the kids as they grow
- To be there to walk a grandchild down the aisle
- To feel stronger, lighter, or more clear-minded
- To break cycles and show the kids a new way forward
Write down your “why” and put it where you can see it. You’re not just doing this for yourself – you’re doing it for your family’s future.
7. Finally, Start Small and Build Over Time
You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Choose one small thing this week, such as taking a walk around the block after dinner or drinking one more glass of water. Then celebrate doing it.
Your new, good habits will grow like roots — deep and strong over time.
Taking Care of Your Physical Body is an Honor
Maybe raising children again wasn’t the path you expected. But it’s the path you are on, and your love, stability, and strength are changing their lives. Don’t forget that your body is part of that strength. Taking care of your physical health isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. It’s a way to honor yourself and show up for those who count on you.
Start today, one small step at a time. Every step matters. And you are worth it.